Interview: How to Overcome Trauma with Robert Wicks
Robert Wicks is a published author and psychologist. After the Boston Marathon bombing, he came to speak to several groups of people to deal with post traumatic stress. He’s turned psychology into a career that can inspire many individuals.
Below is a summary of our interview:
“Face reality and unwilled change will take place.”
Robert Wicks graduated from Hahnemann Medical College and Hospital with his doctorate in Psychology. He has spoken at the Boston Public Library’s commemoration of the Boston Marathon bombing and addressed 10,000 educators in the Air Canada Arena in Toronto.
Wicks’ work has been about building relationships with psychotherapists, physicians, nurses, educators, relief workers, lawyers, corporate executives, persons in full-time ministry and members of the military. He has also published over 50 books for both professionals and the general public including the bestselling Riding the Dragon. His current books written for the general public are: Perspective: The Calm within the Storm and Bounce: Living the Resilient Life.
A Low Point
When Robert was living outside of Washington, D.C., he thought maybe he had done this enough, he’d have written enough books, he’s lectured and done many consultations. But this book club had a list 10 books that were popular, and Wicks’ book made number 10. He began to recognize he shouldn’t change what he’s doing, but that he needed to go deeper.
It’s not the amount of darkness in the world that matters, it’s how you stand in that darkness. He saw that this is possible in post traumatic growth particularly. The A-ha moments are really the tip of the iceberg, and you need alone time to set the stage for things; time to think. It’s important for you to be able to take some time.
Robert’s work now
Currently, he is on the faculty of Loyola University Maryland. As a psychologist, Robert stands alongside helpers and healers who have forgotten that it’s not success that matters. It’s faithfulness that is really going to help.
In his most recent book, Riding the Dragon, he says we have four avenues we can go down in reflecting about ourselves and the world. Three are dark alleys: the first dark alley is arrogance where you blame others and give away the blame, in turn you give away the power to change. The second is discouragement because you want immediate results. The third is ignorance and that’s when we condemn ourselves. It’s just negative grandiosity. His main criteria is intrigue and the spirit of intrigue, in order to lead people to look at things in a different way.
Books Robert Recommends:
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Ritual of alone time in the morning. He gets a cup of coffee in the morning and has a cup with his wife in the afternoon. Quality, no-planned time with someone that you’re close to is probably the leading habit in his life.
Rev. Flavian Burns, who passed away years ago, but was really Robert’s mentor.
The ones he visits most are Psych Central and Psychology Today
What’s Your Purpose:
Robert feels he’s here to make a model for people that you can be outrageously imperfect, but still recognize what a joy life is and walk with people in an effort.
Where to follow Robert
Robert Wicks’ website
It’s not the amount of darkness. It’s how you stand in the darkness that matters most.